The Kings Cross by Tim Keller – OK, I love the way Tim Keller thinks.  This is a fairly new book and I have been using it as a primary source for our entire study of Mark.  Keller unpacks the Gospel of Mark, showing how every passage and story is leading us to the self-substitution of Christ for us.  I would strongly encourage this to anyone who wants to understand the atonement better and to go deeper into Mark’s Gospel.

The Cross of Christ by John Stott – An unbelievable work by one of the foremost theologians and pastors of the 20th century, this is an extensive explanation of the doctrine of the atonement.  Well worth the read if someone wants to dive in deep on the subject.

Death by Love: Letters from the Cross by Mark Driscoll & Gerry Breshears – A very practical and application oriented book on the subject.  The authors give each aspect of the atonement (new covenant sacrifice, Christus Victor, redemption…) a chapter consisting of a counseling letter to a real person with a real life situation, demonstrating how Jesus’ death on the cross accomplishes something real for them, and that the true answer to their struggle is the Gospel applied deeply to life.

Vintage Jesus by Driscoll & Braeshears – OK, this book isn’t specifically on the atonement, but it has great chapters on the death of Jesus and the resurrection.  But this is a fabulous book explaining who Jesus is, why he came, and what he did.  I strongly encourage this for anyone who wants to learn about the life, ministry, death, and resurrection of Jesus.

The Truth of the Cross by R. C. Sproul – A shorter and easier to read book on the different aspects of the atonement.

In My Place Condemned He Stood edited by J. I Packer and Mark Dever – A series of essays by some key Christian thinkers in our day on the cross, they also answer current day objections to the message of the substitutionary death of Jesus.

Scandalous: The Cross and Resurrection of Jesus by D. A. Carson – The book is based on four sermons Carson gave at Mars Hill Church in Seattle expressing some of the great ideas the Scriptures give about the work of Jesus on the cross.

Living The Cross Centered Life by C. J. Mahaney – A fabulous little book that applies the story of Jesus’ death to our everyday lives.  He shows how the event that happened 2000 years ago has impact and relevance, and gives real strategies how to take the cross deep in the soul and live out the implications every day.

Most of us would not associate self-esteem with pride.  In a very real way, our culture has told us that self-love is the key to happiness, achievement, and worth.  Our children are often told that the problem is that they do not value themselves enough, and that their low self-esteem is the problem behind the problems.  The message this weekend was on humility, in which we also raised some ideas about the issue of self-esteem.  So I thought I would throw a few thoughts on the blog about this topic to give a little clarity.

Part of the problem is that the words “self-esteem” are thrown around but we don’t really define them.  So let me be clear about this first.  I am not saying that low self-esteem is a good thing.  Humility is not self-abasement and self-hate.  So, before I can address the true issue here, I need to throw out a definition of what we are talking about and demonstrate how prevalent these ideas are in our society.

It has been said that the new “Greatest Commandment” is, “Love yourself as you love your neighbor.”  Whitney Houston reminded us that, “To love yourself is the greatest love of all.”  At the center of much of the teaching on self-esteem is the idea that we have a great disconnect within the heart and that the solution is discovering and loving our true self.  That self is never really wrong, and never sinful.  Rather, unhappiness is the result of not rightly seeing ones self, and therefore not pursuing dreams and achievement.  The solution, then, is to look within yourself, love what you see, believe in your potential, and pursue your dreams.

So what is the problem there?  This is the very essence of what the Bible is speaking of when it talks of pride.  Pride is not just a chest-thumping arrogance that brags incessantly.  Pride is a self-reliance that leads a person to believes in his own goodness and ability.  When the Bible says that God opposes the proud, we can so easily cast off the idea as speaking of some NFL football player who struts into the end zone, spikes the ball, and then shows the world how great he is.  Of course this is pride, but it is so much more.  Any point where I look inward for the answers and believe in myself as the solution, I have put “me” at the center of my universe and am putting faith in my own abilities as the solution.  As I do this, I will live for my own glory and will also declare myself as the arbiter of all right and wrong.  “This is who I am, who God created me to be, and He would never ask me to live different from who I am inside.”  The essence of self-esteem is to base one’s hope and reality on the person within, hoping to find meaning and hope from the inner being.  Biblically, this is the essence of pride, and the very issue that causes the first sin in Genesis 3.

The reason the self-esteem message is problematic is that it promises things in our lives that really only come through a dependent relationship with God.  Here are a few thoughts on the self-esteem message and how the solution to what it seeks is found only in Christ.

*What it looks from – the essence of the self-esteem message is that you are essentially a good person of incredible worth, and that if a person would put their mind to it they could accomplish pretty much anything.  It sounds so great, and we want to believe it to be true.  The Bible does affirm our incredible worth, as people created in the image of God.  In fact, no self esteem message has a higher thing to say about people than what the Bible declares in the creation story about being created in God’s image.  Yet, we are sinners by nature and choice, and at the core of our being we are broken and dark.  The idea that if we just put our mind to it, we can accomplish anything is so incredibly limited and fundamentally untrue.  No matter how hard I put my mind behind it, I cannot become a 7-foot NBA star or a concert cellist.  Some people are born with gifts that surpass others.  Furthermore, I cannot solve the problem that lies within, no matter what emotional and mental energies I invest.  Humility is the answer to this because it calls me to see myself clearly, both as an image bearer of God, but also as a sinner in need of redemption. Ironically, much of the self-esteem message flows from a naturalistic world view that believes we were not created, but rather evolved, so essentially nothing more than an accident formed by random processes.  We send our kids to Biology class where they are told they are nothing more than a random set of amino acids, then we send them down the hall were the self-esteem message is that all you need is within yourself.  Interesting!

*What it looks for – Most self-esteem messages seek happiness that is found as one discovers the true self.  Salvation is found through self-actualization, affirmation, and achievement.  The problem is that as one discovers the true self honestly, he or she will find a flawed person who does not live up to expectations and dreams.  Most of the time the “If you dream it you can achieve it” message does not work, because we are so limited.  Believe it or not, the goal of Christianity is also the happiness of the individual.  But a different type of happiness, or joy, that is found when a person is confronted with their own inadequacy which leads them to see the beauty, wonder, and adequacy of God in Christ. We realize that salvation will never come from our efforts, abilities, and achievements.  Rather, salvation comes because God loved us, in spite of our sinful rebellion, and redeemed us from the slavery to sin (Mark 10:45).

*What it looks to – “The answers lie within.”  Self-esteem basically proclaims that the inner person is both the source of truth and the essence of hope.  When a person is successful, this gives them reason to boast and believe they are better than others who do not achieve that level of success.  For those of us who are followers of Jesus, hopefully we are learning that there is something so much better, faith and dependence on Christ.  Humility is the answer to self-esteem because it leads us to look to Christ for our hope.  We can never see ourselves as better than others, rather, we realize that we are in need of God’s grace for everything in life.

*What is looks like – Funny that the more we seek personal happiness in our culture and promote the message of self-esteem, the more we need counseling.  Self-esteem can have results as people pursue something greater, but the end of the self-esteem path is the glory of the seeker.  Even “bad self-esteem” ultimately puts the individual at the center, claiming that the cause of drug abuse, narcissism, anger, and other issues could be solved if the person only had a higher view of self.  Either way, the world ultimately revolves around us, and our accomplishments and power prove our worth.  The humble path also leads to accomplishments and great things.  But for completely different reasons.  Those who follow Jesus see their abilities as gifts from God to be used for His glory.  We work hard, and pursue great things, not because our dreams dictate the pursuit of our greatness, but because God created us in His image and calls us to do our work heartily as if doing it for Him (Colossians 3:17, 23).  But in the end, humility leads us to realize that service to God and others is the best test of greatness, and that no matter the accomplishment or ability, the praise belongs to God alone!  And He is the one who lifts us up!

This is why the Christian must always realize that the Gospel call is to realize that the way up is down.  Self-esteem is veiled pride, which God opposes.  The opposite is not low-self esteem and self-hate, which is really another form of self-centered living.  The Gospel leads us to humbly depending and submitting to God.

Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.  Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time He may exalt you. – 1 Peter 5:5-6

Marriage and Divorce

*Don’t fear honesty with God
*Use a journal and write your prayers
*Pray the Lament Psalms when you are hurting.
*Find someone who has chewed the same dirt and pray with them
*Pray over your photo albums
*Read biographies of faithful Christians

Prayers of Lament

*Community Lament Psalms to be used in corporate worship as God’s people cry out to Him together -Psalm 12, 44, 58, 60, 74, 79, 80, 83, 85, 89*, 90, 94, 123, 126, 129

*Individual Laments – Psalm 3, 4, 5, 7, 9-10, 13, 14, 17, 22, 25, 26-28, 31, 36, 39, 40, 41-43, 52-57, 59, 61, 64, 70,71, 77,86, 89, 120, 139, 141, 142

*Imprecatory Laments, these prayers arise out of situations where the enemies of God and His people are experiencing victory and God’s people cry out to God for Him to defeat and judge those who reject God and His plan – Psalm 35, 69, 83, 88, 109, 137, 140

• Spend a lot of time in this Psalm, and the other Psalms of confession.  See the list below for those Psalms
• Check your heart, don’t just do the act.  It is important that we don’t turn confession into a religious activity.
• Do Communion well.  Every time we take Communion and remember the body and blood of Jesus it should move us toward deep honesty with God.
• Learn to confess your sin in your community of faith.
• Make a list of areas of sin in your life, then use the list to confess sin in prayer and repent.  Then take a big marker and write the word “FORGIVEN” in huge letters across the sheet.  Hold on to that sheet for a couple days as a reminder of God’s grace and forgiveness.
• If you have kids, think about how you want them to respond to you in the times where they know that they have done something wrong.  If you are like me, you want to them to run to you, jump in your arms, and share with you honestly.  Then, think about what it would look like for you to respond to God in the same way.
• I know this one might sound crazy, but the Old Testament sign of repentance was sackcloth and ashes.  In other words, they would put on garments that were very uncomfortable and put ashes on their face as reminders that they needed their repentance and confession to go deep.  Sackcloth was something like a burlap bag, but you might choose to wear something else as a reminder during the day, and then remove that item as you give thanks for God’s wonderful forgiveness.
• Confess your sins while looking in the mirror.  Then give thanks that as a believer, when God looks at you he chooses to see the perfection of His Son Jesus.

Some of the confessional Psalms

Psalm 6

Psalm 32

Psalm 38

Psalm 51

Psalm 102

Psalm 130

Psalm 143

The basic idea here is that as we grow as followers of Jesus we will become increasingly aware of two realities.  The first is our awareness of God’s holiness, an increasing understanding that God is completely righteous, loving, just, and pure.  He is sinless and morally perfect, and requires the same of His creatures.  The second is an awareness of my own sinfulness, the reality that down to the core of my being I live for me and fail to honor God with life.

A person is converted to Jesus when they become aware that they as sinners have no hope outside of Christ, but they repent and place their trust in Jesus for salvation and deliverance.  You realize that the way this was obtained was through the cross of Jesus.  But our understanding and trust in the cross does not end there, it begins there.  The rest of life involves application of the Gospel, which is the tension created by these two realities.  The crazy thing is that as a person grows, their life will become more holy and like God, but their sensitivity to their sinfulness will also grow.  In the heart of a Christ-follower the gap between God’s holiness and our sinfulness will increase, even though the life of the believer will be transformed in visible ways.  But as the gap grows in our thinking, the cross and importance of the Gospel keeps growing.  Therefore, our appreciation of and hope in the cross will increase.

Confession and repentance is the avenue to growth, then.  As we continue to include confession in our prayer life we live in this tension.  We see our own sin, and find ourselves to be honest with God, running to Him with our brokenness.  We also see the Glory of God more and more as it is displayed in His holiness.  But in the middle the cross of Christ stands, more and more beautiful, greater and greater still.  And in this we realize that God has bridged the gap.  Our only hope for dealing with sin is God’s grace demonstrated in Jesus’ substitutionary death in our place for our sin.  This increasing awareness is what confession in our prayer life produces.  So may we grow in this discipline, humbly coming to God with our sin.

• Good things, bad things, God things – Have each family member discuss the best thing of the day, worst thing, and where they saw God’s grace.  Use this to give thanks.
• Post-it notes – put things you are thankful for on post-its and hang them around the house as reminders
• Giving thanks over your giving – when you give an offering, don’t just write a check and drop it in the basket.  Stop to give thanks for the blessings God has given.
• Write your story as a thanksgiving prayer – Try writing your salvation story as a prayer of thanksgiving to God.
• Use meals as a time to give thanks – Jesus did!
• Make a thankful scrapbook
• Spend time meditating on the cross – this will always make you thankful.
• Keep a gratitude journal that includes things of which you are thankful and answered prayers.  This will give you something to look at when you struggle to have gratitude in life.
• Respond to growing ingratitude with service of people who are hurting, poor, and struggling.  At times you may find your heart hardened to God’s grace and feeling like you deserve more.  Nothing will challenge this more than going to a soup kitchen, working in a clothing giveaway closet, or getting involved with kids in an inner-city community center.
• Set a gratitude goal and pray as you go – Make it a goal that you will notice a certain number of blessings throughout the day.  Start simple, maybe a goal of five or ten.  Then, as the day goes try to reach the goal, having at least five times when you notice a gift of grace and stop to give thanks.
• Develop your gratitude in human relationships – Notice things people do for you, and use those as moments to express thanks to people and silently give thanks to God.  For example, do you look your waitress in the eye, call her by name, and thank her each time she delivers a drink or food item?  Work on this.  At the same time, consider praying for her, and also giving thanks to God for the ways He serves you.  Try this with the checker at Walmart, the lady at the Post-Office, your neighbors…
• Sieze your commute – According to census information, the average American worker spends twenty five minutes each way commuting to work.  Driving to work can be the most wasted time.  If you drive fifteen minutes, half-hour, an hour a day to and from work, consider using this time redemptively as a time for prayer, praise and thanksgiving.

As we work through this series, one of the things we will do each week is to post a blog with some ideas for each area of prayer.  These will be practical, life-application ideas you can try and use.  Every person is different.  So while the principle is vitally important (that we need to be deep in our prayers, and that each of these areas needs to be a part of our prayer life), the path to this will look different for every person.  These blogs are merely ideas for integrating the principle, in this case the importance of praise into life.

But we also need your help.  We want you to join the conversation.  We want my blog to be the beginning of a discussion that grows and grows.  We want you to include ideas that you have used to integrate these areas of prayer in your life over the next five weeks.  Hopefully after a few days we will have a long list of amazing ideas that will help everyone grow in their personal and corporate prayer life.  So join in!  Now to the first week – praise.

Ideas for praise in your prayer life

• Use the Psalms a lot.  Pray them.  Psalms is a book of prayers, songs, poems, and praises to be used in the worship of God’s people.  They are dripping with praise.  Literally, open the Psalms and recite the words as your personal prayer of worship and praise.
• Use music in your worship and praise – Several Psalms challenge us to use music, or as one says, “Sing to the Lord a new song (Psalm 96:1).”  Download some music that fits your style, but has words that take you to a vertical conversation with God.  If you don’t have music of this sort you might try some of the music listed below.  Then use some of these songs in your private times of prayer.  Let abandon flow (make sure you are in a place where no one is watching), sing with all your heart to God.
• Try reciting the ABC’s, but with each letter think of an attribute of God that leads us to praise and worship.
• Utilize postures of praise and worship that are part of the Biblical story.  Here are a few:  *Standing with hands raised (Psalm 28:2), lying prostate with face down on the floor (I Corinthians 14:24-25), dancing before the Lord (2 Samuel 6:14-15, Psalm 150:4), kneeling before God as King (Psalm 95:6), bowing (Psalm 5:7), clapping (Psalm 47:1).
• Program “praise breaks” during the day.  Set an alarm on your phone or watch for one or more times during the day, and when the alarm goes off, stop for a moment to express your love for God and your joy in his being.
• Create a habit of starting and ending your day with praise – As you wake up, voice a prayer of praise and thanksgiving, and as you go to bed, praise him for another wonderful day in His presence.
• Start using the word “Hallelujah” a lot.
• Make your life a praise – learn the ways you best express your love for God and do it often.  If you find great joy in serving, then serve.  If you worship by being a contemplative and going deep in prayer, make it happen.  If you are an intellectual who discovers praise while reading and contemplating deep truths, find time to do that.

OK, now its your turn.  Add to the conversation and start using a few of these ideas in your life this week.